On Comments From the Crowd
Putting Our Story Out There
Last week was a big one for us. Our story was featured on Global News across Canada. We were super excited to share our story, we couldn't be happier with how Global News handled it. We continue to be overwhelmed by the amount of positive messages received from people across the country and around the world.
While we are thrilled about the positive messages that people have shared with us as a result of this news story, we want to take the opportunity to address some of the more negative comments and offer our own, more positive perspective on things!
Perceptions of What a Healthy Body Looks Like
Whenever we have posted to social media about the transformation we made to a more healthy, active lifestyle, the majority of comments and discussion is supportive and celebratory in nature. However, there are always some not some positive comments that we are guaranteed to get.
Changing the Conversation
We are very close to the same body weight. We are both at a very healthy weights for our height and couldn't be happier with our new bodies since making the change to a more healthy, active lifestyle. Not only are we more confident, but we are now able to participate in all the adventures we always dreamed of having.
"We need to change the conversation from what a perceived healthy body should be vs. what it actually is"
By our medical records, we are in great health. We need to change the conversation from what a perceived healthy body should be vs. what it actually is. The best way to do this is when you or someone you know is making a big life change or developing new habits, keep encouraging them!
Perceptions of What a Happy Family Looks Like
By putting our story out there, and showing that you can be child free and still live a extremely happy and fulfilling life, we have received some amazingly supportive feedback.
and some not so supportive feedback....
Changing the Conversation
Two and a half years ago, while we were still grieving the loss of the family we thought we would have, if you had told us that we would end up speaking out publicly about the loss we suffered and how we turned that into something incredibly positive, we would definitely not have believed you. We never planned to be advocates for people who are child free by circumstance, but if sharing our story can help other couples who are struggling with/have struggled with infertility or help create a dialogue about what a happy family can look like, we are pleased to keep sharing our story.
This is another issue where we really need to change the conversation. We usually receive two comments, constantly. The first is to just adopt, and the second is that maybe we will have a miracle baby.
"if sharing our story can help other couples who are struggling with/have struggled with infertility or help create a dialogue about what a happy family can look like, we are pleased to keep sharing our story."
When we receive comments saying that we should just adopt it can be frustrating , because of course we have heard about adoption. We explored adoption quite extensively. We think very highly of people who do chose to adopt, however it is not for everyone. After we went through parts of the adoption process, we decided that it was just not something for us.
The second comment that we get is so very well meaning, and we appreciate the intention behind it. However it really discredits all the work that we have put into processing the fact that we won't be having children. It took a long time to get to this place, and we are happy here. At this point in our journey, we do not want a miracle baby, we are very happy with our family even if it's small!
So what should you say to someone you know who is going through infertility, or who has decided to become child-free? Be sympathetic to their situation, a simple "That really sucks, is there anything I can do to support you?" is perfect. Be supportive, if you see that the person you know is starting to move on, and starting to plan new goals and new dreams, encourage them! It's really scary to start planning a whole new life, so having support and encouragement means everything.
Comments from the crowd are inevitable and sometimes when people are commenting on social media sites, they can forget that there is a person behind the story or screen. We wanted to highlight these comments in our post today, not to dwell on the negative but to try and shine some light on the issues of what a healthy body and a happy family can look like.
"We wanted to highlight these comments in our post today, not to dwell on the negative but to try and shine some light on the issues of what a healthy body and a happy family can look like."
Through our blog and our presence on other social media platforms, we hope to contribute something positive to the health and fitness world and create a supportive, positive community for people who are at any stage of their own personal journey!